Do You Lie to Yourself About Your Finances?

Back in the day, I loved watching Everybody Loves Raymond.  There was one episode in particular called The Checkbook that still sticks with me.  Debra does all the money management and budgeting for the household, and Raymond finds out that Debra had borrowed money’s from Ray’s parents to make ends meet one month.  Ray is upset and thinks that Debra is not doing a good job with the budgeting, so he insists on taking over.

Things seem to be going smoothly, and Debra is relieved to be free of her budgeting duties . . .until the lights go off one night.  Turns out, Raymond had been making a mess of the checking account from the beginning, so he created a separate second check registry so Debra would think everything was fine.

In the end, when Debra sits down with Raymond to fix the mess, he confesses that there’s yet one more check registry he’s kept from her.  Hours later, the mess is finally cleaned up, and Debra takes over financial responsibilities for the family once more.

The Lies Will Catch Up with You

Are you like Raymond sometimes?  Do you lie to yourself about your finances?  Do you insist that things are not that bad even though you have credit card debt or have no emergency fund?

No matter how many lies you tell yourself, just like Raymond’s experience, the time will come when you’re faced with reality.  In Raymond’s case, his reality came when the lights were shut off.

In our own family, we lied to ourselves that we could afford parochial school for our son.  That lie cost us thousands of dollars we really couldn’t afford.  Thankfully, when our youngest two were scheduled to also enter the parochial school, we did the math and finally faced reality.  Now, we homeschool.

Face Financial Reality

We’re only days away from 2014.  If you’ve been lying to yourself about your financial situation, why not make this the year that you face the truth?

Take a few hours and write down exactly how much debt you have, what assets you have, and how much income you have every month.

The whole exercise might be painful, but at least you’ll be honest with yourself.

Take Steps to Improve Your Situation

Once you see your complete financial picture, take the steps to improve your finances.

First, slash whatever expenses you can.  Perhaps get rid of your home phone and get an Ooma instead.  Call your insurance company, your cable company, and your credit card company to negotiate monthly payments and interest rates that you pay.

Sell the extra stuff in your house.  We all have “clutter” that someone else may find useful.  Sell that stuff on Craigslist, eBay, or a Facebook group.

Get a side gig.  Find a side gig that can help you bring in extra money to help you pay down debt faster or increase savings.  Thanks to the Internet, there are many jobs that you can do online in your free time.

Let 2014 be the year you face financial reality.  You’ll be in a much better financial position at this time next year if you do.

What is the biggest financial lie you tell yourself?


The following two tabs change content below.
Melissa works from home as a freelance writer, virtual assistant and blogger. Her blog, Mom's Plans, reflects her desire to plan life one step at a time while caring for and homeschooling her children (ages 9, 5 and 3) as well as paying down debt and saving for a house.


  1. says

    I remember that episode. I’ve definitely lied to myself about my finances in the past and sometimes I still catch myself doing it. I get caught up in the moment and think I can do more than I realistically can. Luckily, I’m usually able to catch my lies before I make a huge mistake.

  2. says

    That’s an episode that I definitely remember. W and I were just talking about it the other day too because I am like Debra and manage all of the finances and bill payments.

    I am similar to Alexa as well. I used to not be realistic with our budget and would just hope for the best. Not anymore though!

  3. says

    Ha! I remember that episode. That show drove me a little nuts overall, but every once in a while I’d get caught up in a marathon…

    My biggest “lie” I told myself was “don’t worry about starting now, you have plenty of time.” Yeah, technically I have (and had) plenty of time to build up a nest egg… But I lulled myself into doing nothing for a while and giving up decades of the compound effect of early and wise investing.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge