Setting Mom Up in Long Term Care

The last few months have been very difficult for my family.  My mom’s health is in serious decline and we’ve had to deal with a whole slew of unpleasant situations.  We’re going through the Medicaid approval process, we pre-paid funeral expenses for when the inevitable occurs, and we’re working on getting her house up for sale.

The whole situation has been really stressful and time-consuming which means I haven’t had as much time and energy left for blogging.  But that’s ok, family always comes first.

After her latest hospital stay my sisters and I talked with her doctor and realized that she is no longer able to take care of herself.  Even with my one sister still living at home and caring for her, what she really needs is skilled nurses watching over her around the clock.  So when she was discharged from the hospital we had her moved to a rehab center/long term care facility that is only about 4 minutes from my house.  This is great for me because I get to see her all the time and I can swing by with the kids at a moment’s notice.  Previously she had been almost an hour away and it was difficult getting up there to visit.

The hardest part of this ordeal was having the talk with her.  No, I’m not talking about the birds and the bees…we had to sit down and explain to her that she’s not going home.  She’s going to stay in the long term care facility where she can get the care she needs by trained professionals.  Rationally, I think she understands that.  But emotionally she has had a hard time accepting it.  We’ve gotten to see a lot more of her and we even took her out for Mother’s Day and a couple of family barbecues.  Of course, it’s not the same.  It’s hard seeing someone you love and admire slowly break down.

Anyway, my apologies if this post is a bit off-topic.  I just wanted to share a bit of what was going on in my life and urge you to appreciate what you have while it is still here.  Never miss an opportunity to tell someone you love them.

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Mike is a freelance writer and blogger who specializes in finance and parenting topics. He is a dedicated husband and father of three who is obsessed with creating multiple streams of income and building wealth so he can achieve true financial freedom for his family. Like what you're reading? Subscribe to our free RSS feed and follow us on Twitter.

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  1. says

    I am sorry to hear about this Mike. Long Term care plans are actually something I start talking about with my clients as soon as they hit 50. No one wants to talk about it, but it is so much better to have a plan in place financially and emotionally in advance. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  2. says

    I can imagine the emotional aspect is hard but at the same time you and your siblings probably feel a whole lot better knowing shes surrounded by professionals and getting help you simply can’t provide. Good luck :)


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